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Thoughts from a Canadian Vicar


July 2007

Brazil VS Scotland

Today July 18 is the memorial for ST. THENEVA. She was a British princess who had a sad story indeed. When she became pregnant before marriage, her family threw her from a cliff. I have heard of parents being upset at things their kids did – but my heavens! Remarkably she was reported to have survived the fall unharmed. She found a boat, floating with no one in it and got into the boat and sailed across the Firth of Forth to land at Culross where she was cared for by Saint Serf; he became foster-father of her son, Saint Kentigern.  She is the Patron Saint of Glasgow along with her son.  


Now all of that brings me to Scotland – “No one provokes me with impunity."  Being from Scotland usually affords the quality of character that lives up Scotland’s motto.  Scots are proud people and a very determined and patriotic lot. One of my very favourite Scots is a woman by the name of Jean Anderson. She has displayed well the good Scottish heritage that she has grown up with – mostly in her ability to keep her husband John on the straight and narrow. John and Jean are celebrating their 5th Anniversary today.  It is hard to believe how quickly five years go by. The wedding day was HOT – very HOT! Nonetheless, it was a fantastic day a we all got to celebrate a union that came about at St. Mark’s by-the-Lake. It is legend at this time that when John started courting Jean he took it slow on Catherinanne’s advice. January to July is not TOO FAST! We must remember that John is Brazilian, their motto being "Order and Progress." While Jean’s origins may essentially say "Who dares meddle with me?" John is hell bent on making progress with good order and good prudence. So John’s Brazilian charm and sex appeal overcame the determined nature of a Scottish Princess. Just as Theneva displayed a great ability to hang in and make it even when it is tough – so to has Jean. 


On a serious note it was great to see these two people come together.  John and Jean are a wonderful couple and I am so pleased to have been a part of their wedding – and before that to have had a part in their meeting. On their wedding day I reminded them of what their names tell them. John means “God is Gracious.”Jean means “God is Gracious” I thought then that was significant because in each case I believe that God has shown the gracious nature of the Divine in each of them. They are good people and they bring out goodness in those around them. Indeed, since then having been able to watch them grow together I think the fact that their names mean “God is Gracious” is very apropos. In their life as a couple we see the gracious nature of God and God’s love expressed.


Congratulations to a Warden of this parish and his beautiful wife on your anniversary – you are both so fortunate to have each other – So to sum up – with order, John made progress with jean despite the fact that she was not to be provoked unless he was willing to pay the price – John paid up willingly and they are a happy and wonderful couple. – this is what happens when mottos come together!

Keep it going -54 more years and you will catch up with Geoff and Margaret Dibbs!


A Big Anniversary

In the Episcopal Church (Our American Church – or should I say Ecclesial Body) today is the commemoration of William White (Bishop of Pennsylvania). Now our great Honourary assistant The Reverend Canon Geoff Dibbs does not need to be reminded of this at all – his is after all not just an American Citizen he winters in the Episcopal Church in Arizona. Now if Geoff were writing this he would probably remind us all that William White was the first, and the fourth Presiding Bishop (American Primate) of ECUSA. Geoff would think it important that we be reminded that while he held a long pastorate at St. Alban’s in London, ON, William White was rector of Christ church and St., peters for 57 years – now that is a long pastorate! Geoff would remind us that he was the only bishop to side with the revolutionaries during the war as the others remained loyal to the Crown. On second thought, given that The Reverend Canon Geoff Dibbs was once the Queen’s Vicar, he may leave this detail of William White’s life aside.  Now truthfully, I suspect that Geoff would not tell you much about this being a feast day for a pioneer of the American Church. I think instead he would tell you about the bigger feast being kept today. – What is that you ask?

Glad you asked! This is the Anniversary of f the Marriage of Geoff and Margaret Dibbs – 59 years ago TODAY!  There are some photos in the photo section of this blog. Most notably – the wedding photo! (What a happy and wonderfully beautiful bride and groom) The other neat photo is of Amanda’s wedding to Larry Kovacic (Another beautiful bride and groom). They are great pictures – be sure to take a look-see. Geoff and Margaret are great people and they have been a wonderful addition to this parish. I believe that the time is drawing nigh that we start campaigning for full time residence on the Canadian side and a short winter vacation to Arizona – we miss them so much when they are not here. You have all heard me sing Geoff praises for his gifts of priesthood – I need not say more about that – his head swells too much! But I will offer my reflection on his tenderness and care for Margaret and her devoting and care for him. Geoff has been a devoted ordained minister for well over 50 years and that has meant a lot of sacrifice for both Margaret and their children. As much as the ongoing gag says that we work one day a week – I know that the devoted clergy are working non-stop – Geoff fits that bill (Wait a minute I have to stop that – the head will be swelling). Margaret you have been a fantastic minister as well. You too, have reflected the light and love of God in your own personal witness, beyond being supportive of Geoff and his ministry. I am so impressed with their tenderness for each other. The words of invocation for marriage in the Book of Alternative services reminds us that “The union of a man and woman in heart, body, and mind is intended for their mutual comfort and help, that they may know each other with delight and tenderness in acts of love [and that they may be blessed in the procreation, care and upbringing of children]. As I reflect on this couple married for 59 years, these words are rolling around in my mid. They have in recent years (as I am certain they have all of their lives) displayed a great ability to be each other’s “mutual comfort and help.” And really who do we know with a better sense of “delight and tenderness.” They are wonderful people who have raised two wonderful children. They have witnessed well the sacrament of marriage. Geoff would have used these words from the Book of Common Prayer 59 years ago – “I Geoff take thee Margaret to be my wedded wife, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better for worse, for richer for poorer, in sickness and health, to love and cherish, till death do us part, according to God’s holy ordinance; and thereto I give thee my troth.” Margaret would have used the same words changing the obvious parts. Geoff and Margaret have had theirgood times and bad times, they have enjoyed good health and have faced challenges, they have loved and cherished each other and have been a great witness to the world of marriage. Thank you both for loving each other so well and for witness to all of us God’s love.

In 1948 Madeline L’ Engle was writing books already – perhaps by that time a young Geoff and Maragret may have been reading her work. She has and interesting take on marriage;

 She writes in The Irrational Season "If we commit ourselves to one person for life, this is not, as many people think, a rejection of freedom; rather, it demands the courage to move into all the risks of freedom, and the risk of love which is permanent; into that love which is not possession but participation." Geoff and Margaret remind us that marriage is just that – participation. When you hear Margaret talk about Geoff and when you hear Geoff speak of Margaret and their ministry it is clear that Margaret was not just a “clergy wife.” Margaret and Geoff have participated well in being a devoted married couple. Let us all who are married pray that we might look to our husband/wife/spouse and let them know how much we love them and how much they mean to us – let us all delight in the great gift of freedom that comes in being participants in the lives of each other.  

Happy Anniversary to a wonderful couple.

The Collect for the commemoration of William white is a fitting prayer with which to end the epistle – as I think we can see the same virtues cited in this prayer to our beloved Geoff and Margaret.

O Lord, in a time of turmoil and confusion you raised up your servant William White, and endowed him with wisdom, patience, and a reconciling temper, that he might lead your Church into ways of stability and peace: Hear our prayer, and give us wise and faithful leaders, that through their ministry your people may be blessed and your will be done; through Jesus Christ our Lord, who lives and reigns with you and the Holy Spirit, one God, for ever and ever. Amen.


John Ferguson Sr – Rest in Peace

On Saturday John Ferguson Sr. died after a courageous battle with cancer. While I did not know John well, I was pleased to have been in his company many times over the past 8 years and was the recipient of his gentlemanly nature and his obvious kindness of heart. I will not forget our first meeting. I am a life-long Montreal Canadiens fan – this was a big moment for me. Given his fierce and competitive nature on the ice I think I had a certain expectation of what this man would be like. I was so surprised to be quickly disarmed from being star-struck because Mr. Ferguson was such an unassuming and gentle man. It was a privilege to meet a true Habs hero but now I realize that it was more a privilege to meet such a thoughtful and benevolent human being.

John was a founding member of the Circle of Seven Charity Group here in Windsor of which our parish’s Rob Agnew is a member.  This group has raised over $2 Million dollars for local charities – our church is one of those charities. John supported our Annual auction each year which to date has raided in excess of $140 000. I want to take this opportunity to offer our parish’s prayers and best wishes to the Ferguson Family and the Circle of Seven Family at this very difficult time. John will be missed by a lot of people – this community has lost a kind and gentle leader.  God be with you all as your mourn and be assured of the love of God and the prayers of the community at St. Mark’s by-the-Lake.

I leave with this video from YouTube showing John doing what he did best – such a fierce competitor – John finished his life by fighting cancer – and he took it on with all courage and strength that we saw him display on the ice. – hear how John Jr. described his Dad’s battle with the disease: "My father battled cancer with the same spirit in which he played the game of hockey," Ferguson Jr. said in a release on Saturday. "He showed courage, strength, class and tremendous character. He had deep appreciation for the support he’d received from so many people beginning with his initial diagnosis. My father’s spirit will continue to live on in all of us whose lives he touched."

Rest Eternal grant unto him O Lord, and may light perpetual shine upon him,
May he rest in peace, and rise in glory – AMEN

I work for an “ecclesial community????”

From The CBC Today comes this report

“The Vatican issued a document Tuesday restating its belief that the Roman Catholic Church is the only true church of Jesus Christ…. The document adds that Protestant denominations — called Christian Communities born out of the Reformation — are not true churches, but ecclesial communities. "These ecclesial communities which, specifically because of the absence of the sacramental priesthood … cannot, according to Catholic doctrine, be called ‘churches’ in the proper sense," it said.” To read the rest of the article click here.

This is alarming indeed! Cardinal Ratzinger issued a similar document in 2000. This thought process and theology is now housed in the office of Pope in the name of Benedict XVI.  For us Catholics who are not Roman Catholic, this is alarming. This news comes fresh after the news that restrictions on the Tridentine mass (which includes a prayer for “the conversion of the Jews”) have been lifted. So much for moving forward.  I fear the Roman Catholic Church is moving in a direction which is not in keeping with the message of Jesus of Nazareth. Sadly this statement from Rome places me on the outside of “church” looking in.

I care deeply for the Roman Catholic ecclesial community and I have been involved with the RC ecclesial community for almost 15 years as I have admired my wife’s devotion to God and her ecclesial community . Thankfully I can say that this attitude is not what I have come to know from Roman Catholics in general. I have been respected and included by priest, lay person and bishop in the Roman Catholic Church. My Orders (Priest and Deacon) have been respected by most. For instance, one of the sweetest moments after my ordination to the Priesthood was, in fact, a conversation between Fr. Joe and me in Labrador City. Fr. Joe was the Pastor of The RC Cathedral for the Diocese of Labrador City/Schefferville. I had just returned to Labrador after my Ordination to the Priesthood in my home parish. I went to Mass with Catherinanne and at the end of Mass I was greeted with an embrace from Father Joe. After he embraced me he took off his stole and placed in over my head and onto my shoulders. It is a multicoloured stole that was woven by the women of Latin America where he was a missionary and sewn by the Innu women in Ungava Bay where he also was missionary. With this very touching gesture came these kind and very heartfelt words; “Kevin you are Priest now. God Bless you – this is my gift to you.”  

Where does Rome’s present attitude leave this devoted Oblate Priest who accepted my sacramental priesthood? Where does it leave the millions of faithful who have worked hard to build bridges to other communities in a spirit of ecumenism? Where does it leave the holy conversation of seeking and serving Christ in the midst of all peoples?

I am going to choose to take Fr. Joe Baril’s words as proper catholic teaching. I  want to say that I am grateful that the RC people that I know, love and respect do not profess this attitude and I am certian will be dismayed by today’s news. I will pray that Holy Spirit will influence the hearts and minds of those who write encyclicals from Rome that they too might hear the voice of love that the faithful are hearing. In the meantime I will continue to enjoy worship and sacrament and discipleship in my own chur….oops sorry “ecclesial community.”

I Know THE Secret

Good Sunday Morning All.

I am so looking forward to church this morning that I thought I would send along a note – if you’re in the Windsor Area – drop in and see us – this morning I will be telling EVERYONE – “The Secret.”  My hope is that at the end of liturgy this morning it will no longer be a secret and more and more people will hear what this sensation is all about.  So if you have been curious about “the Secret” – save yourself some money – there is no need to buy the book or the video. I will tell you this morning. Please don’t tell the producer – Rhonda Byrne that I am about to "spill the beans" that she is so busy counting. 

More to follow after I share it with the church! (If I give it all away here – who will come to hear it? – this of course is all a part of “the secret.?



Rhonda Byrne is the producer of “the Secret.” She and her people espouse the “law of attraction” as the answer to all that is troubling, all that is problematic and all that is constricting. There are those who have quite self-righteously pronounced to the rest of the world that what they really need is “The Secret.” It is quite well packaged in the motif of the Davinci Code with scrolls and wax seals and hearkens to mystery and the mystic and is attractive to many. Even the name of this prepackaged self help is a great marketing coup – what better to sell than a secret – everyone is anxious to hear a secret.  Ultimately thought – nothing in this is new and it is certainly NO secret.

Now why was I speaking to this today? – Well the Gospel today is a reminder about the sinfulness of self-righteousness. Jesus had commissioned 70 people to go out and be disciples for the kingdom. They did so. They came back and were very proud to tell Jesus of their conquest over demons and the power that they possessed. In what was a complete ignorance of who gave them that authority in the first place these folks proudly told Jesus of their great ability. Jesus does not accept this with bravdo but instead reminds those called of a little thing called humbleness. His reminder is gentle and loving and it is assuring as he reminds them that their names are already written in the kingdom of heaven. It was a reminder that the glory is God’s and that we who are disciples are servants – not masters. Nowadays this is not valued so much. In fact some circles of Christianity are preaching something called the prosperity gospel which essentially posits that if you are praying right and living right then God will “bless you” with riches. Now the self-righteousness of the 70 was probably very bold in the day of Jesus of Nazareth. But today we often see this behaviour and see it as an annoyance of personality but it really is more than that. While our society gladly promotes individualism and “every man for himself” it is not ultimately of God and certainly not a part of God’s agenda. We have all been subject to being told that someone else’s answers are the answer for us. We may have even been guilty of trying to tell others that our way is the right way. This behavior is very prevalent. Theologian Barbara Brown Taylor reminds us that this behavior is very destructive and indeed sinful:

“In a culture that sanctions every individual’s right to seek his or her own path to perfection, self-righteousness can seem only an irritating character flaw. One person decides that steaming vegetables is the responsible way to eat and turns pale when her friends order meat. Someone else discovers the aerobic benefits of running and begins to badger all his sedentary friends. We all do it on some level. We find something that gives us life and we want everyone else to have it too. We want to share the good we have found, whether it is as simple as a new way of losing weight or as profound as a new way of approaching God.

But when I turn my good into your duty and judge you for your failure to perform it according to my standards, then my wish for your well-being becomes something darker and more dangerous. My altruism becomes self-righteousness, which is no longer an annoying habit but a pernicious pride that works evil in the human soul.”

I quite agree with her assertion. She is making clear the need for us to step back from vain pride and arrogance and accept that we do all things by God’s grace. That to me is really THE SECRET. It is as simple as understanding that our names have already been written by God in the kingdom. It is accepting that we are loved by God, others are loved by God, and we do not always have to feel that everything is going to be alright. “The Secret” is big on the power of positive thinking and on attracting others towards self.  It is big on telling others and is exceptional at getting the message out. Its positives are very positive. We as a church can learn from that as we should be sharing our secret –we should be reminding others of what Jesus reminded the disciples of in today’s Gospel – simply Love is free – Forgiveness is free – God already loves you – you are already forgiven and your name is already written on the palm of the Divine’s hand. The Secret is self directed and not God centered. I read this criticism from Wikipedia:

Prof. John Stackhouse, Professor of Theology and Culture at Regent College in Vancouver, Canada, in a commentary at his blog, calls the film "the newest packaging for Gnosticism".  He portrays the film’s message as just another choice among many religions to choose from, not the "Lowest Common Denominator of all religions". And notes:

[The film] is wishful thinking that does not correspond to the way things are. Some of it does, yes, which is why people can honestly testify to good things resulting from it. But some of it does not…  Stackhouse finds the good in the film "genuinely nourishing" and the bad "genuinely toxic". He makes it clear he is "…all for proper positive thinking" — the alleged good aspect of the film — and finds fault with Christian culture for not being better at it:

By God’s grace to us, we know better, we know Christ and his Gospel of new life, and yet often we have failed to speak to the spiritual realities so skillfully addressed by proponents of The Secret.  The alleged toxins are, in Stackhouse’s eyes, a spiritually lethal concoction. The identified "poisons" include: blaming the victim refusal to admit" that life has worthwhile "trade-offs … [and] sacrifices It’s all about me and it’s all up to me


The secret that needs telling is that God is present with the victim and does not blame the victim for the state that she or he is in.  Reading what I have read so far from this well packaged self help program, I am certain that those involved would argue that if Jesus had only known the secret, he would not have been crucified. The real secret reminds us that selflessness and sacrifice are important and were modeled by Jesus of Nazareth. The real secret, as opposed to the well polished “secret” directs energy toward service towards others instead of self promotion and preservation.

Yes today we are reminded of a secret – Jesus Loves us – and we ought to love one another.


Back on my Feet

Where have I been?

This has been the longest single period without a post since I began this blog over a year ago. Several things have taken over and have prevented me from getting to this. The good news is it has all passed and now you should be able to look for regular posts again. In the past week we have lost several electronic devices to a power surge and w lost the internet for several days. All of this was a result of the big lightening storm about a week and a half ago. In the meantime, while I was attempting to replace the Garage door opener (fried in the surge) with my neighbour Steve I twisted my ankle and sprained it with some ligament and tendon damage.  The good news is that we finished the job and the door is working again. Last week end all of this meant that I missed church for the first time in a long, long time – at least 10 years – I have no missed a Sunday since I was ordained and truthfully I can’t remember when I missed before that. I came close a couple of years ago when I had gout in oddly enough the same ankle. But I made it to church that time – I did not do much – but I was there.

In the meantime church came to me last week. Very touching to have the Sunday School kids all come to the front porch where I was elevating my leg. Upon arrival that offered two great songs to liven my spirit. Here is a video that shows well what they did for me – plus some music and photos from past events to just say thanks! (You should turn off the music media player at the top left by double clicking on the "pause button")

I also got to see Nate and Carol who I was to baptize that day but – alas you know the rest of the story. I m so grateful to The Reverend Canon Geoff Dibbs, who is gradually getting elevated to Divine status for his ministry in this parish, for all of his help. Geoff jumped right in. Geoff does not just fill in – he offers his all and in that provides excellent liturgical leadership. Thank you so much Geoff – first baptism in about 20 years I reckon.

I am not moving quickly, but I am back in business. I am getting Physiotherapy for the ankle and it is progressing well. Although I have to say it is not real comfortable tonight after the physiotherapy session today.  I am looking forward to Sunday so much – I really missed being with my parish family last week, even though I know they were all with me. I am concerned about missing church as I read about a study a few years back that said skipping church is not good.  In fact it can shorten life! Here it is-

Skipping church can shorten life

A recent study shows that the quantity of life suffers from skipping church.
Researchers at the Universities of Texas and Colorado as well as Florida State University found that those who regularly attend religious services live 10% longer than those who never darken the church doors.

For those who attend services once a week, statistics indicate they will live to age 82 – and can tack on an additional year of life expectancy if they attend more than once a week. Those who don’t go at all live to an average age of 75, the study said.

Source: USA Today, 4/26/99

At that rate, myself and Geoff Dibbs and others like us can expect a long life for sure!

The Japanese Proverb says – “Fall seven times, stand up eight.” I intened to take that to heart and have courage to get up and go – so if you see me hobble forgive my speed – but I am up and I am at em – so let’s get back to blogging, churching, socializing, working, loving , well you know – life as usual.

On another note – there have been some great reflections on John Hounsell-Drover’s blog – take a look – insightful stuff.

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